Slave or Sub - Which One Are You?

There has always been a debate about the definition of what makes a sub or submissive and what makes a slave. Whilst in a community or strict sense, there are definite boundaries; but, on a personal level and even within the community of BDSM, there is a range of definitions. Also, if you have watched Fifty Shades of Grey, you might think that a slave and a sub are pretty much the same thing. However, that is not always the case.

A sub or submissive might be flexible and willing to change his boundaries to please the domme. He may even cross certain boundaries that might make him a slave. But, there are some submissives who maintain strict boundaries and do not cross over. They like to remain in their comfort zone whilst also not disobeying the domme.

In the broader sense, in a dominant-submissive relationship, a sub renews the choice to submit every single time a demand is levied. On the other hand, a slave makes a one-time choice to submit to the domme, and thereafter, it is incumbent upon them to obey all instructions and commands of the dominatrix.

So, to put it simply, a slave would be someone who completely submits to the whims and fancies of the dominatrix. He gives up every element of control on an emotional, physical and sometimes, on a financial level. A slave is a person who derives satisfaction and happiness by obeying the dominatrix, often beyond the point of their own comfort level. A submissive, on the other hand, is someone who agrees to certain boundaries with the mistress.

However, both sub and slave have similar needs in relation to their desire to be controlled, to submit and to serve; and both to a lesser or greater degree are prepared to surrender a part or all of their control to a dominatrix.

So, what do you think you are? Do you wish to completely give up control and allow the dominatrix to treat you in any way as she pleases? Or do you want to be controlled, but still maintain some kind of say in the way you are treated? If you are unsure whether you are a submissive or slave, schedule an appointment with a BDSM mistress in Marylebone and explore your preferences. A professional domme will create a safe place for you to discover what you want.