Reasons Why People Enjoy BDSM

The appeal behind sadomasochism and bondage is often misunderstood by people who just enjoy vanilla or run-of-the-mill sexual encounters. This is because such people see sex as a pleasure-giving activity. But, there are people who enjoy dominating and being dominated. Receiving or giving pain is a part of their enjoyment.

One of the reasons why people enjoy indulging in BDSM is because of trust. Domme-sub relationships require a huge amount of trust, which is not the case with vanilla sex. BDSM is not just about giving someone pain in a sadistic manner, but a lot of organising and talking goes into the process. Also, the submissive has to give his/her consent before the dominatrix can move forward with the acts. This means that people have to be completely honest with each, discuss the things they like, set limits and establish safe words to be used at the time when they want the act to be stopped. So, a lot of people who wish to take their relationship to the next level, engage in BDSM to test their level of trust and compatibility.

Another reason is the sheer pleasure of having the tables turned and doing something different from their normal life. For instance, a man is usually seen as a figure of authority in a patriarchal society and he takes all the decisions. Sometimes, it becomes too heavy for them to carry this responsibility. They do not wish to make decisions when they are naked and in bed. They would want the woman to take charge of the situation and tell him what to do and what he cannot do. This vulnerability and being dominated by the fairer sex is incredibly sexy to a lot of men.

There is a third reason for enjoying BDSM, which is a sense of unknown adventure. This erotic adventure is missing in vanilla sex. It is not only about the use of toys and receiving pain from the dominatrix. BDSM can involve fantasy roleplaying where the submissive can make his imagination run wild and play characters that he had always fantasised about.

So, if you have ever wondered why do people enjoy BDSM?, the above-mentioned are a few reasons. BDSM is a mixture of fun, pain, pleasure and adventure. It allows people to let go of their inhibitions and embrace their innate desires and secret kinks in a safe space.